Know that your home is also your spouse’s home, a place where they deserve and have the right to be at peace and sometimes even to be alone in their space.
Having people over may not always fit with this, so it’s important to talk to them about it before having people over.
No matter who the person is, if they are not a member of the household, they are a visitor. Even your parents and siblings who live with you full-time are guests.
There may be rules and exceptions that both sides agree on. For example, you may both agree on who can come without an invitation or notice, but in general, everyone should be on the same page.
It’s not polite for a husband to have people over without telling his wife first. This gives her at least time to get ready for the guests. Many wives have been called bad by their in-laws because they didn’t get special treatment, but how can you give special treatment to a visitor whose arrival even surprises you?
This shows what kind of husband you are. The same goes for a wife: if you don’t talk to your husband about it, don’t use emotional blackmail because it’s also his home. If your family wants to come, make sure everyone is on the same page. This helps to ease the tension.
Even worse is if they have to stay a while. Now think about this happening to couples who are traveling.
How do you tell your spouse that you planned for a family member or friend from another country to stay with you, but they only found out a few days or hours before they arrive?
At the very least, this is rude. We can improve. It’s important to talk with your partner before a visitor comes over. This doesn’t make you weak; it shows that you have strong values.